The Paradox of Pain

“You’re not a bad person.  You’re a very good person, who bad things have happened to.  Besides, the world isn’t split into good people and death eaters.  We’ve all got both light and dark inside us.  What matters is the part we choose to act on.  That’s who we really are.”  ~ Sirius Black to Harry Potter

The title for this could have also been The Pain of Paradox.  I teetered back and forth trying to decide which side to focus on, and, in typical paradoxical fashion, I realized…both.  I remember saying last year that I wanted to stand in the middle of a teeter totter and be perfectly balanced.  To which a wise man responded, “You’re going to have to have a strong core.”  Of course, I was speaking metaphorically.  It’s safe to say I’m extreme about being balanced.  I know that sounds rather oxymoronic.

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Disappointing the Devil

“You are always so desperate to find yourself AND ready to abandon yourself.  You so badly want to be seen AND to disappear.  You have forever been desperate to yell “Here I am!” AND to fade away at the very same time.” ~ Glennon Doyle    

The paradox of this quote really resonated with me today as I was listening to Glennon’s newest book Untamed.  I think this quote unveils the dark madness that haunts our inner selves.  We long to be seen and loved for who we are, yet we’re afraid to be vulnerable, so what do we do?  Hide behind all kinds of masks, going to painstaking lengths to suppress the insecurities that torment us.  Expensive clothes, fancy cars, posh job titles, makeup, lavish vacations, and a wide variety of filters on Instagram.  Of course these things aren’t evil in and of themselves.  But are we just hiding?  Are we trying to quench our thirst for something deeper and more meaningful?  Who are we really when all of that is stripped away?  Will we disappoint others with who we really are without those things…and more importantly…will we disappoint ourselves when we take a deeper look into those eyes staring back at us in the mirror?

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Malice in Wonderland

“There is a place.  Like no place on Earth.  A land full of wonder, mystery, and danger!  Some say to survive it: You need to be as mad as a hatter.  Which luckily I am.” ~ The Mad Hatter

I dreamt up the title of this blog over a decade ago, but never did anything with it.  Considering the madness currently brewing in our world, I think it’s high time I stop brewing the idea, and spill the tea.  Oh my!  Have I made a rhyme?  I just woke up from a dream about a rabbit.  Random?  No, it’s Easter.  I think.  What day is it?  Day 26.  A quick glance at my ever present technological pocket watch reveals that it is the unearthly hour of 3 a.m.  Oh dear!  I just hit my head on the ceiling.  It seems…a bit lower today?  How curious!  Opening my eyes, I remember…I’m a miniature version of myself…trapped in a teapot.  I’ve been doing a lot of wondering lately.  Not that that’s really anything new.  But I feel like I’m in one of those purple mental spiral tunnels (try saying that as fast as you can, more than twelve times) from an old animated movie.  But this isn’t a movie, and it isn’t a bad dream either.  This is reality. Continue reading “Malice in Wonderland”

Wondering

It seems like everyone has something to say about the current situation our world is in with the coronavirus. Should I add my two cents or would it just subtract from the words coined by others wiser than me? Better to keep one’s mouth shut than to open it and sound foolish. While there may be a demand for many necessary items typically found at convenience stores, coronavirus memes aren’t in short supply. Laughter is essential; it helps offset the panic on the other side of the coin, right? We want to laugh because if we don’t laugh, we might cry. It’s okay to cry though; it reminds us of our humanity. Most of us have never been through such an uncertain time as this, and we don’t know what to expect or how to react. But I believe we should give ourselves grace and permission to feel whatever it is we’re feeling. It’s okay to be sad, confused, and afraid. If we don’t feel the gravity of this situation, we won’t process it or respond to it appropriately. Continue reading “Wondering”

YESTERDAY

A blank white page.  What will I muse about?  Yesterday.  I very much liked yesterday.  The sea-saltiness hanging in the air.  The gentle rippling water, and the sun hitting it, causing an endless sea of paparazzi.  Little bits of magic – shining…shimmering…splendid!  My feet gently crunching the vibrantly green grass, wishing to feel the coolness of the waves kissing the shore.  The blockade of sharp rocks tells me to just watch from a distance.  It’s sunny with a high of 85 tonight.  But I don’t mind.  The air is so free and calm, with an occasional blustery gust of wind…strong yet gentle at the same time.    Continue reading “YESTERDAY”

Lackadaisical

I spent a little time editing my blog site tonight and as I was reading, I came across a few things that inspired me to write.  Even though I’ve blogged a lot this month, I’ve gotten a little lackadaisical on the idea of “Randomness.”  Crazy, right?!  I mean…that IS the title of my blog AND what this whole thing is supposed to be about!  So, tonight I must write what’s on my mind and BE RANDOM!  So here you go.  Backing it up a bit, I always thought the word was “lacksadaisical.”  I’m not usually lackadaisical with grammar, but it’s hard not to make mistakes when you hear a random word like that which so often gets mispronounced.  I so appreciate having Google at my fingertips, virtually whenever I need it’s mad research skills. Continue reading “Lackadaisical”

Dark Matter

Depression.  Anxiety.  Fear.  Guilt.  Shame.  Death.  Disease.  Disabilities.  Abuse.  Toxic relationships.  Divorce.  Job loss.  Heartache.  Hatred.  Crime.  Racism.  Slavery.  Suicide.  Terrorism.  War.  Natural disasters.  Human trafficking.  Infertility.  Miscarriage.  Failure.  Addiction.  Homelessness.  Loneliness.  Inequality.  Ugliness.  Lost friendships.  Mental disorders.  Insomnia.  Criticism.  Rejection.  Doubt.  Darkness.  Maybe you see pieces and parts of your life in this list.  These things and more make up the dark matter we all face as part of the human race.  In a perfect world, none of these horrible realities would exist, but unfortunately, perfection is not the reality of our universe.  Scientists say that only about 4% of our universe is known…which means about 96% of our universe is made up of dark matter and dark energy…the unknown.   Continue reading “Dark Matter”

Inevitably Uneditable?

It’s the evening of Thanksgiving.  I am particularly fond of gazing up at the moon, and it is beyond beautiful tonight.  I was certain I would be able to capture it’s beauty with my 24 megapixel Canon camera.  I’ve done it in the past.  I spent several minutes shooting at the moon, whilst hoping for a sign of a shooting star, but alas there were none to wish upon.  I got out my tripod and changed some settings on my camera.  The result was extremely clear pictures of an insanely bright moon!  I was sure I could edit them to perfectly show the asymmetrical features staring back at me from way up high in the black night sky.  I rushed back inside and after eating some Thanksgiving leftovers for dinner, I edited away on the best photo I shot of the moon. Continue reading “Inevitably Uneditable?”

Apophenia, Fruffles, & the Fritz

“Nothing is so alien to the human mind as the idea of randomness.” — John Cohen 

I read that quote recently and instantly felt a connection to the idea.  So…I thought I should write a blog about it.  I mean…it’s only appropriate, right?  The editor of Randomness finding a quote about randomness…some might deem it divine inspiration.  I just thought it was too perfect of a quote not to incorporate into my blog, however random the connection might end up being.  Let the reader note that writing about randomness is not an obligation, but rather a state of mind that I fully embrace.  I enjoy connecting with people through my writing.  We as humans love connections.  We want to connect with others through conversations, shared experiences, and common interests.  It’s what gives validation to our own humanity…finding out we’re not alone in our thinking and feelings. Continue reading “Apophenia, Fruffles, & the Fritz”

The Bird and The Browns

This one’s for the Relient K fans.  Randomness would like to take a moment to give a virtual celebratory high five to its source of inspiration and our favorite Canadian, Matt Thiessen, for the release of his long awaited solo project, Wind Up Bird.  This may end up being an album review, although that was not my intention when sitting down to write a blog on this TV dinner night.  First, I just have to say how much I love the album artwork.  A superfluity of bright colors…and a bird.  A bird that looks a little annoyed with me, the bird watcher.  As I take in the beauty of this bird (that also has his eye on me), I easily get lost in the sleepy-hollow folky tunes of this record.  Yes, I have it on vinyl because sometimes I want to act like a hipster.  Continue reading “The Bird and The Browns”